Meet Megan

In My Own Words

Megan Andrews

Hi, I'm Megan, and I hope to meet you soon, but I understand if getting to know a bit about me first helps create some safety before setting up a first meeting. In trying to figure out where to start, I thought of what I normally tell clients in a first session: “Your life is too deep and complex to fully do justice in one moment, so let's lower the stakes and simply start with what are a couple of things you'd like me to know about you.” 

Some Things About Me

I am the second youngest in a large Christian homeschool family that understandably placed a high value on independence. But this, plus the multiple church conflicts that ended with us severing entire communities of relationships, left me with a system of disorganized attachment. I felt a desperate longing for connection, but because of the pattern of abruptly severing relationships, I also felt terrified of connection, and uniquely broken in my ability to connect with others. Friendship felt shallow and easily ended, which made conflict something to be avoided at all costs. Cue: Too Good at Goodbyes by Sam Smith. 

After a childhood of church, conferences, church camps, 3 years of ministry school and then 4 years of working as a children's ministry director, I had read more books and listened to more sermons on what you should and shouldn't do than most people will in a life time. But all this information wasn't embodied or grounded in compassion and love, so it became a lot of shoulds and shouldn'ts, that I could never live up to, and eventually burnt out from.

I knew that something needed to change, I couldn’t keep neglecting my mental and emotional health. It started with books and Podcasts, then a course, and eventually I worked up the courage to let someone into my process and began meeting with a Life Consultant. At first it was more shoulds and shouldn'ts; I was really good at intellectualizing my feelings, not so good at being present and feeling them. (Unless they exploded in an out of control way.) I started studying under Justin and Abi Stumvoll and began to understand my nervous system. I began working on regulating and increasing my safety awareness. Connection began to feel less scary, as I got more connected to myself and my body, being present enough with my emotions to recognize them and feel them in real time, without being overwhelmed by them. The transformation I was seeing was key in helping me connect and bond with my then-boyfriend/now-husband. His value for growth was a big part of how I fell in love with him. He has shared in this journey with me, supported me in a radically healing way, and been the one I practice conflict with as it becomes less and less scary. I'm not saying I have a perfect marriage, but he is my favourite.

At the beginning of this journey, I thought I would learn some things and move on, but I will spend the rest of my life continuing to grow in these things and more, because it feels like coming alive. I decided to become a professional Life Consultant, so that I could nerd out on this stuff full-time. It is so much fun to share what I’m learning with others, and help them get connected to their own hearts and bodies; it feels energizing. The more I learn about the human nervous system the easier it is to have compassion on all types of people and see their loveableness.

In these little pieces that don’t do my story full justice, I hope you know that I have hope for you and your story because I found hope for mine.

In Other's Words: How Clients Describe Megan

Megan is so smart...

"Megan is so smart, and also somehow so flexible, and so incredibly present! It feels like a trifecta for safety. I felt safe in her presence from the first time we met. She has a way of helping apply science, logic, practical techniques and complex healing principles in a way that connects deep into the heart. She is amazing at using visual representations in order to help healing feel uncomplicated and transformational. Her style of consulting reaches past the head, down into the heart, and then pours over into the past, present, and future. Her consulting style allows for healing to reach every part of the story of the person sitting in front of her."

Megan asks thoughtful questions...

"Megan asks thoughtful questions and creates an environment where it feels safe to speak honestly and openly. It feels safe to share when something isn’t hitting or if my heart is going in a different direction. Megan also notices and celebrates the steps taken towards healing and this builds more and more empowerment and momentum. Megan provides practical ways to integrate what was learned in a session into the day to day."

I love how I can trust...

"I love how I can trust that she will take me where I need to go in a session and I don’t have to do any planning or prep but just show up and I know that she will figure out what I need as I start sharing. She is very comforting to be around and I feel very relaxed and listened to and understood."

I really appreciated that...

"I really appreciated that fact that she take a pause to allow me to feel my emotions no matter how small or insignificant I may think it is. I also really liked the exercises to get present in my body."

What I appreciate most is...

"What I appreciate most is that I feel like I can be completely honest with Megan about everything and anything and she'll never judge me (or even get upset with me if I respond differently than most people would!). I also SO appreciate how she is always so gentle, warm, patient, and so super encouraging because it really helps me not to quit in the times that I "feel like" I'm "failing"!"

I don't have much experience with...

"I don't have much experience with others to compare, but I really appreciate how Megan can handle my strong emotions and interruptions. She notices when I have emotions, and ask questions to help get to the root and connect to memories and ride the emotional wave. She help me feel comfortable to voice my thoughts and needs. I also appreciate that I didn't have to tell my whole life story right off--we delve into bits of it every week and process through what comes up."